Three principles that prevent confusion
- Name the boundary instead of hoping people infer it.
- Do not over-apologize for a decision you have already made.
- Put practical information where guests can find it again, not only in a private conversation.
Say it kindly and clearly
Wedding wording for the awkward parts.
Clear wording is usually kinder than hints. Choose the situation, then edit the example until it sounds like you.
Wedding wording helper
The output is a starting point, not a rule of etiquette.