Readings, prayers and music that belong in this service.
A funeral program does not need many pieces. A few choices that genuinely reflect the person or the family's faith are usually stronger than filling every possible space.
Begin with three questions
What did they love?
A hymn, song, poem, Bible passage, prayer, writer or piece of music connected with the person can be more meaningful than something chosen because it is “standard.”
What does the family believe?
If the service is within a faith tradition, ask the officiant which readings, prayers or music are appropriate and where they belong in the service.
What tone is needed?
Comfort, gratitude, lament, hope and honest grief can all belong. The service does not have to pretend everyone feels only one thing.
Who will take part?
Choose readings people can actually deliver comfortably. A short passage read well is better than a long piece someone feels pressured to perform.
Useful categories to search within
- Christian Scripture: passages about God's presence, resurrection, comfort, hope and remembrance.
- Prayers: opening prayer, thanksgiving for the person's life, prayers for those who grieve, committal or blessing.
- Secular readings: poems, letters, short literary passages or a piece written by a family member.
- Music: prelude, congregational hymn or song, reflective piece, music during photographs, closing music.